Går danskerne ind for ligestilling? Ikke, hvis man skal tro debatterne om sports-bh’er og barsel

Danskerne går baglæns i ligestillingsdebatten – hvorfor går de ellers ind for, at kvinder skal pakkes ind, og er imod tvungen barsel til mændene?

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Do Danes support equality? Not if one is to believe the debates about sports bras and maternity

The Danes are moving backwards when it comes to the gender equality debate – why else would they they favor women being wrapped up as well as being against forced maternity leave for men?

Let’s start with the fitness center in Odense, which will ban women from training in sports bras. To me, two things are problematic in the gym’s argument for introducing their new rule.

Firstly, the argument for implementing the rule raises several red flags. The rule is introduced because of ‘respect for cultural differences’. We all know what that means. It means that a very specific group of young Muslim men have a problem with being in the immediate vicinity of free women who dress as they please. And no, I am not advocating for girls and women running around schools and workplaces in very short tops. But in a context where you are spending your free time in a place designed for the body to physically work, as is the case in a gym, and the focus is not on intellectual and professional performance, the situation is somewhat different.

If one gives in to the kind of misogyny that the injunction quite obsessively expresses, it opens the gate to an avalanche of restrictions that could be created aiming to make women take up less space in the public sphere.

Secondly, the fitness center operates under SDU (University of Southern Denmark), which only underscores my next and disturbing point. Of all, especially universities, should be aware of what signals they are sending and for what reasons. Maybe they are, but then they are definitely not aiming for a a gender equality mindset the Danes usually pride themselves of.

“But, wait!”, you might be thinking to yourself. Weren´t you the one who said we should not sing that Shu-bi-dua song? No, I have never said what one may and may not do. Contrary, I said that once people are in Denmark, you have to talk to each other in a civil and inclusive manner. That is the exact opposite to what is going on when one is intolerant and promotes inequality between the sexes.

The second debate, which is taking place in the Danish media this week, is about maternity leave. Many Danes are completely up in the red because new rules ensure that the father must take more maternity leave if the mother wants the right to receive maternity leave beyond a certain number of weeks.

There are many aspects at stake in the debate, including some that have to do with the EU. Rainbow families are almost completely left out of the debate as well. And before spoiled Danes, who do not even think of maternity leave as an incredible welfare benefit, start arguing, it should be said that people always have the right to do as they please – but that it then be without the state’s payment.

Seen from the outside, it seems to me quite unreasonable to complain about the generous welfare benefits that a long Danish maternity leave is.

I have countless girlfriends here in the US who, after a few weeks, have had to return to their workplace or have simply been forced to quit their jobs.

For my own part as an employee of the University of Washington, it was stated in my contract that I as an employee would be entitled to what is considered a good scheme here, namely 12 weeks maternity leave.

Neither a short maternity leave nor the choice of women to stay at home benefits family life or the equality of women. Why are the Danes fighting over a rule change that will create better conditions for the well-being of the family and for women’s equality?

In Denmark, it is not a question of depriving anyone of anything, but on the contrary of supporting women’s career opportunities, fathers’ attachment to their child and gender equality in general.

It has always been the case that if women wanted the same rights as men, we would have to twist their arms. Gender equality does not happen by itself, it must unfortunately be introduced by law. This has been the case with the right to vote, the right to abortion, etc., etc., and this is also the case if we are to have a family life where the mother and father in the child’s first months are equal in parental attachment.

Is Denmark really willing to move backwards in relation to women’s equality when it comes to bare belly skin and childbirth?

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Drømmer du om at blive dusørjæger – og hader du kvinder – så kig til Texas

Ny lov giver 10.000 dollar i dusør, hvis du melder taxachaufføren eller kæresten, der kører en kvinde til abortklinik.

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Have you always dreamed of becoming a bounty hunter – and do you hate women? – then look to Texas

New law gives $10,000 in bounty if you report the taxi driver or girlfriend driving a woman to an abortion clinic.

Abortions performed with knitting needles, subsequent hemorrhages – desperate women making desperate choices are no longer a thing of the past.

Few women are aware that they are pregnant in week six. For those readers who do not have the pregnancy calculation method present, a woman’s pregnancy is calculated from the first day of the last menstrual period, despite the fact that conception takes place approximately two weeks later. So you usually have no idea that you are pregnant before the following month when you don´t get your period.

In the state of Texas, they have spent many years refining the method of how to make it harder for women to have an abortion. In fact, the state has repeatedly, since the early 1970s, tried to introduce laws to make it as difficult as possible for women to make the choice it seems so many men have such a hard time with.

In the past, the US Supreme Court has blocked abortion measures from being implemented in Texas. But not this time. On the contrary, they have announced today that they will do nothing to prevent the implementation of the state of Texas’ new abortion laws.

Do you remember how many judges Trump got installed in the Supreme Court, and how he quite deliberately went after the right-wing Christians, when he not one, not two, but three times installed abortion opponents such as Amy Coney Barrett in office? We now see the result of that, and the composition of the judges is perhaps an indication of what the women in the southern states have in store when Republican politicians in Texas’ neighboring states take notes while they watch the new legislation and the Supreme Court’s lack of reaction unfold before their and the rest of the country’s eyes.

So, what is the new laws about? In short, it is now illegal to have an abortion after week six. If there is a heart sound, it is not possible to have the operation performed. Neither incest nor rape are legitimate exceptions to the rule.

When wanting to get an abortion, there are all sorts of procedures in place that are deliberately stretched over several days, so the process is pulled as far out and makes the woman feel as much guilt and shame as possible before she gets the procedure performed. Add to that the shouting, screaming and sectarian indoctrinated abortion opponents who form a circle around the clinics and shame the women and clinic staff as they try to reach the entrance.

Where does the bounty hunter principle come in? With the new law, private citizens can file a civil lawsuit if they suspect that someone is helping a woman in the process of having an abortion. As much as $ 10,000, and all legal costs will be paid to you if the accused is found guilty.

If you are a Uber driver who drops off a woman in front of an abortion clinic, you can be prosecuted, because you helped her get there. If you advise pregnant rape victims about their options, you can be prosecuted. If your girlfriend is pregnant and you talk about abortion as an option, you can be prosecuted. The cruelty that turns citizens against each other and the hatred from politicians aimed at their own citizens in need is unbearable.

Yes, some women have the opportunity to go to another state and have their surgery performed, but many do not. Many of the women do not have the resources and try in advance to take care of the children they have, while they have to juggle several jobs to be able to support the family.

Apparently, it is important for some to oppress women and keep them being stuck in a helpless situation and give a potential child a difficult start to life. Their self-righteous insistence on forcing women to have an even harder life by insisting that an unborn life is worth more than one already in the world is so infinitely shameful, reprehensible and heartless.

Where does this hatred come from – and where does it end? Will my own daughter and the daughters of the future grow up in a Western society where men who hate women deprive them of the right to decide over their own bodies?

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Vi skal udbrede kendskabet til danske værdier – så hvorfor vil regeringen lukke en ordning, der gør præcis det?

Kendskabet til dansk sprog, litteratur og samfundsforhold i udlandet er en vigtig værdikamp, som Danmark er ved at tabe.

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It is vital for a small country like Denmark to create awareness of its culture and values – so why would the Danish government shut down a program that does exactly that?

Spreading knowledge of Danish language, literature and society to other countries is an important fight when it comes to the battlefield of values – a fight Denmark is losing.

“Why do you want to study Danish?” I asked the young female student.

“Denmark is known for their equality, and I would like to work with women and children in South America,” was the somewhat surprising answer.

In the six years, I taught as a Visiting Danish Lecturer at the University of Washington in Seattle, I time and again was met with an interest in Danish values, culture and society.

In the Government’s new 2022 Finance Bill, it is stated on page 127 that they want to phase out the Visiting Lecturer Program.

The program is responsible for spreading knowledge of the Danish language, literature and social conditions abroad. 26 Visiting Lecturers work all over the world, from the USA to Hungary, to Russia, Germany, France and China at various prestigious universities in Berkeley, Skt. Petersburg Vienna, Paris and Beijing , where they represent Denmark and spread the knowledge of our small, beautiful country’s language and culture.

It has taken decades to build the relationships and cooperation that Denmark has with foreign universities. In fact, the partnership that started of in 1937 has survived a world war, an oil crisis, the poverty of the eighties, and the differences of changing governments.

The reason is probably quite clear. Denmark needs the world to know us. And the pennies it cost to run the program, just under 9 million Danish crowners a year, we build ourselves a name and reputation in the world that no communications agency could ever create with these important university partners. Other Nordic countries have the same program as well as does the Baltic countries. It is infinitely vitally important for small countries to spread the knowledge of their identity to survive.

Seattle is located 7782 km from Denmark, further than the distance between Copenhagen and Kabul. If there is one thing that should be abundantly clear during these disturbing times, it is that the values ​​we are up against are under pressure and should be fought for.

The Danish government apparently does not think so.

If you turn your gaze from little Denmark and ask people around the world if they know Denmark, you often get an answer about HC Andersen and the little mermaid. If you are lucky, a few are able to say something about Lego or wind turbines. But Denmark is so much more – and the Visiting Lecturers do everything they can in their daily work to make sure that the world knows.

The Visiting Lecturers represent Denmark when they are out serving at various universities in the world. They do not only teach Danish language and literature classes but also social conditions, gender equality and the Danish welfare system. The Visiting Lecturers are the link between Denmark and the country to which they are sent.

If the government terminates the program for what must be considered pennies in the Danish federal annual budget, not much make sense in terms of how important our politicians say the importance of spreading Western values ​are.

The issue is about so much more than the cost of the Visiting Lectureship and the financial budget and bottom line – it’s about exporting our Danish values.

Er Europa ved at blive som USA, der lader lobbyister knægte frihedsrettigheder?

Velorkestrerede kampagner arbejder for at begrænse rettigheder for kvinder og LGBTQ.

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Is Europe becoming like the United States when it comes to the power of lobbyists changing fundamental freedoms?

Well-orchestrated campaigns work to limit the rights of women and LGBTQ.

Yesterday there was a knock on my door. Outside stood a man who told us he had grown up in our house that his father had built when he was a boy. We invited him in and showed him around. It was a very touching and emotional tour – for him, but also for me.

I have met his father several times. He’s of the old school – Republicans, voted passionately for Trump, believes that women belong in the home, that it is their most important job to look after children. That was what we discussed when we bought the house.

Now the son was standing in our living room. Tears flowed as memories washed in over him. He told of his childhood, which had been good and safe. But he also told of a father who had never accepted him. The son was a high school teacher, something his engineering father certainly did not find appropriate. And the man in my living room had also never gotten his father’s acceptance when it came to the man he loved.

I’m so angry. Angry on behalf of this man, angry at my own, angry at the parents who can not figure out to love the child they are having, but can only accept their child if it fits in a box they can understand.

Here stood a man who was some of the most sensitive, reflective, and pleasant. And still his upbringing and the prejudices of society persecuted him.

I know it well, I myself grew up in a family that could not accept who I was and the choices I made. And I also know how it will probably always sit in one, even when one has found some kind of peace with family relationships.

Here in the United States, not all areas are equally easy to live in if you belong to a minority. For example, it’s easier to belong to the LGBTQ community in the larger cities of my state, Washington, our neighboring state of Oregon and, of course, California, than it is in some of the states further south.

There are places where it is decidedly dangerous to belong to the LGBTQ community. And there are places where it is decidedly dangerous to be a woman if you should want an abortion. There are many who want to kidnap the rights of women and minorities.

But why am I telling you now? Can Europe not be totally indifferent to what is going on here in the United States in terms of women’s and LGBTQ rights? Not quite. For perhaps Europe is heading in the same direction.

The EU is full of interest groups and lobbyists trying to advance their own agenda. It is, so far, fine, part of the democratic process. But now the report “Tip of the Iceberg “, which describes the period 2009-2018, shows that there are two areas that well-organized interest groups have joined together to promote – namely abortion resistance and resistance to LGBTQ rights.

I often get the feeling that in Denmark there is a belief that the fight for rights for women and sexual minorities is long over. It is quite nice that this is the case in most circles in Denmark. But it’s just that Denmark is, firstly, an infinitely small country and, secondly, part of the EU.

Abortion resistance, antifeminism, anti-immigration, anti- LGBTQ, antisecularization. The groups working for that kind of caveman mentality are getting stronger and stronger. As in the United States, they use reliable names that contain words such as “family,” “freedom,” “dignity,” and “human rights.” The view of society is, however, that LGBTQ rights and abortion resistance are their central focal point.

Here in the United States, the right to abortion is under pressure in several places and in several states, including In the state of Texas, it is almost impossible to have an abortion, because how many people know they are pregnant before you can hear heart sounds? Young women are terrified of getting pregnant, the men are, as usual, no one to take care of. Even if the pregnancy is due to incest or rape, there is no pardon. Time and time again, lawsuits are being filed to advance an agenda that makes it more difficult for women and minorities to make free choices. Maybe the EU is on the same course?

The level of our rights can be read in how women and sexual minorities are treated. The rights are not secured, they are constantly under pressure, and we must be strong when it comes to defending what we stand for.

Karen Melchior, Member of the European Parliament for the Radical Left, was interviewed on P1’s “Orientering” on 20 June on this topic. She points out that the situation calls for action, that we react before the rights are violated, as we see attempts at in Poland, among other places.

It’s really quite simple. As Melchior said in the program: “This is not something we can see through fingers with, or something that goes over by itself. If we believe that there should be equal rights, no matter who you love or who you are, that women should be allowed to rule over their own bodies, then that is something we will have to fight for. “

The narratives supported in these campaigns are directly drawn from the rhetoric we know here in the United States. They did not arise spontaneously in the religious department of the EU. It is naive to think that lobbying is an expression of cultural differences in Europe. On the contrary, it is a well-organized campaign. It requires a counter-campaign.

Never let it be the case that in 50 years there will be a man in my living room crying because he has had to fight a battle to be who he is and love who he does. And never let it be the case that women’s hard-fought rights are trampled underfoot with the pretext that fewer rights are rooted in a cultural-religious context and must therefore be respected in accordance with an ideological female vision of darkness.

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Jeg får lyst til at stille mig op med en stor megafon og råbeskrige

Når vi lader som om, vi er ubekymrede over for terrorangreb, så har vi allerede tabt.

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I feel like standing up with a big megaphone and shake the world up by screaming

When we pretend we are carefree about terrorist attacks, then we have already lost.

Then it happened again. We have become so used to it, does it cause anything other than a shrug? Another bomb attack, once again reports of many dead and maimed bodies. It’s so far away, what can be done against religious fanaticism?

Maybe we’re just pretending we’re carefree. We must not let our anxiety and fear get the better of us. We must live as before, even though we know that before it no longer exists. We trivialize the ideological evil that Lars Saabye Christensen writes in the third volume of his novel series “Byens Spor”. After all, there is so much more that is more dangerous, the probability of dying in a terrorist attack is less than of dying in traffic.

I feel like standing up with a big megaphone and screaming. How can we just let another madness attack lie like a shrug while we look down and away and not let ourselves be noticed that evil has once again shown its bloody face and laughed at us and our principles of equality right up in our face?

This time the attack was on a girls’ school in Kabul, and it is not Copenhagen, fortunately. The car bomb and the subsequent 2 explosions killed 85 people, mainly schoolgirls. 147 are injured.

What makes this bombing so heartbreaking is that it was targeted at a school – but not just any school. Quite deliberately, the terrorists went after the girls.

The Taliban has denied any involvement in the attack. But I wonder if it now also fits, we know how they feel about girls, and with the combination of girls and education. Girls become women and women with education are dangerous, they could go and think something about one thing or another and become difficult to control.

No no, if you have to control girls and women, and you obviously have to, then you have to assassinate yourself to power and hope that you scare enough parents to keep their daughters indoors, far away from books and education.

Joe Biden has announced that the United States will withdraw its forces by September 11th. In itself, the date is ironic and does not make sense – at least not if you want to signal that you have won.

For why is it now that the United States is in Afghanistan? – it all started on September 11, and with great fanfare, Biden now says: “Ok, dark forces, you win. From your earth caves you have proved that by primitive means, but with ideological misogyny, you can fight the world’s largest military and our Western values. And girls and women : sorry, you are on your own. ”

What the actual fuck, Biden !?

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Nej, vi taler ikke for meget om indvandrere, flygtninge og integration – det gælder Danmarks fremtid

De små poder i klasselokalerne bliver afgørende for, hvad vi vil med vores samfund og demokrati.

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We are not talking enough about immigrants, refugees and integration – the future of Denmark is at stake

Elementary school children are crucial when it comes to where we want to take our society and democracy.

The other day I listened to P1 Debate , where the Radical Left’s Samira Nawa Amini argued that “foreign policy and foreigner debate ” takes up too much space. 

I disagree with that. The consequences of immigration affect all parts of society. Whether we relate to education policy, welfare policy, penal framework discussions, housing policy , etc. , etc. , the influence of Islam and immigration is crucial to how we want Denmark to develop in the future.

Furthermore, we should be able to agree that the challenges will not disappear if we make the ostrich Swede model, stick our heads in the sand and close our eyes to the problems.

Unfortunately, Denmark has become a society where strong forces are at stake, working hard to use the democratic rights that Danish law allows for non-democratic indoctrination.

Take e.g. the debate on independent schools. The first free school saw the light of day in 1852 as a reaction to the public peasant school’s strict principles of discipline and memorization of especially biblical texts. The founder Chresten Kold saw imagination and creativity as the driving force behind children’s professional development, his thoughts were inspired by NFS Grundtvig.

So far so good, it all sounds very healthy and completely in the Danish spirit.

Unfortunately, work is underway to set up indoctrination schools where children learn that the only true faith is Islam.

Danish legislation gives free schools the opportunity to determine their own student composition and build on their own values. When the legislation was passed, no one had foreseen how it could be abused.

The schools have no requirements for the teachers’ educational background, you can only shudder at the thought of who is being invited into the classroom fold.

The idea that one could bring in a potter, a writer or others of that caliber and teach the children was perhaps a good idea as a basic idea. It was then that Denmark consisted exclusively of a group of people who largely shared the same traditions, the same culture and the same basic Christian-based values.

But it is a pretty bad idea not to have requirements for teachers’ education when the principle is abused to erode the basis of Danish values ​​and instead preach extremism – even paid for by Danish tax dollars.

The Denmark that works so hard to get a difficult-to- integrate group integrated thus pays to hatch parallel societies in the earliest childhood years – where it is important to get them into the Danish fold and show them what values ​​Denmark based on.

In today’s Denmark, it is blatantly naive that Danish tax dollars in the form of state taxes have to be paid to indoctrinate the next generation of podcasts. In order for the Denmark we want to exist in the future with the Danish values ​​and manners, it is important that children are introduced to the society of which they must be a part in the future. A society based on democracy and gender equality. A free society that has taken generations to build.

Schools that preach that students should keep their distance from non-Muslim Danes and, in general, promote an us-and-them with hatred for exactly that country’s values, we so diligently try to get them to be a part of, hear not at home in Denmark.

In a society like Denmark, it is crucial to have a common core and an understanding of the Danish culture and the Danish community, which everyone should want to contribute to. One may question whether it makes sense in this context to support schools that teach Islam and Arab culture as the desirable form of society.

Danish tax dollars should not go to promoting thoughts and ideologies that go directly against the democratic spirit. Time and time again, it has emerged that independent schools promote values ​​that are far from the Danish and slow down integration.

That’s where we’re. So what do you do? Do you insist that Kold’s basic idea of ​​free schools is beautiful and good and good for your pod’s creative learning? If you do, then you continue to provide the opportunity to rabid Islam preachers have free access to young students’ worldview.

In my view, we need to change our approach to society as it changes. Denmark needs to introduce laws that make it more difficult to set up schools that go directly against Danish values.

Opposition to the change of something as core Danish as free schools is as naive as the desire to stick to the good old days. They no longer exist, and if we do nothing to make it easier to intervene and influence the next generation of young people to have a democratic mindset with a love of Danish culture, then in a few years there will be no Danish culture to pass on.

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Coronapandemien kan blive positiv for kvinders ligestilling i mødelokalerne

Opmærksomhed på mødekulturen kan betyde, at kvinder respekteres for det, de har imellem ørerne.

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The corona pandemic could be positive for women’s equality in the meeting rooms

Attention to the meeting culture can mean that women are respected for what they have between their ears.

The other day, a Facebook friend wrote that she liked attending meetings virtually better than in a physical meeting room. Why? She wrote: “Video conferencing has leveled the playing field for women in management positions. Literally people see me from the neck up and can not judge me on my clothes, my shoes or anything else. And they don’t talk easily about me either, it’s great. “

Her post made me think about whether Zoom meetings might promote equality. However, after a quick google search, it became clear that there are several research results on the subject, which paint an opposite picture than what my Facebook friend expressed. Several media outlets have covered the topic and among other things, The New York Times has reported on the topic here : 

But whether Zoomm meetings of women are experienced as liberating, as is the case with the aforementioned Facebook friend or vice versa as inhibiting, I imagine that there is more focus on the issue than there was before the pandemic – simply because it has become so much clearer , what happens when men tumble women.

Many outside covers are gone in relation to our attention when we sit in an online meeting. On a Zoom call, I can not physically feel the presence of my colleagues in the same way that I can when we are sitting in a meeting room in the workplace. I am not distracted by what he or she is doing or by sounds or smells. I look at my screen and have to relate to which of the little squares is talking and what they are saying.

Let it be said at once: there are an incredible number of terrible consequences of the corona pandemic . But nothing is so bad that it is not good for anything.

I live in the state of Washington in the United States. We crossed the 365-day marker a few days ago that the children have been receiving homeschooling for a year. My husband and those of our neighbors who have the opportunity to do so have also been working from home for more than a year.

All meetings take place via Zoom and the interaction that does not take place via the computer screen takes place over the phone. Meeting rooms, company lunches, informal meetings in the hallways are gone.

So when research and media focus on the role of women and the opportunity to make an impact at Zoom meetings and on how men treat their female colleagues at these meetings, one can hope that the increased focus will spread to the implementation of new agendas. , when the world once again opens up.

And here it becomes interesting, at least if one is in favor of equality. Imagine that when the world re-establishes the routines we left more than a year ago that we are actually using the knowledge we have to change behavior. I already have a hard time understanding why some men act the way they do when they find it completely out of place to interrupt and intimidate women in a meeting room – and everywhere else for that matter.

I allow myself to dream that new research, when we have been back at our workplaces for a year, shows that women in the meeting rooms express that there is a different mood and responsiveness when they attend meetings. That they are less aware of their gender and that there is more attention from their male colleagues to their professionalism. If so, we have managed to make the world a little bit better.

Let us hope that the culmination of the experiences we have gained in relation to women’s relationships in the meeting room affects the gaze and the treatment that women have previously been accustomed to at Zoom meetings and in a physical meeting room.

I hope the women return to the meeting rooms and not to the same extent as before the pandemic to fight for the floor. Research has repeatedly shown that in meetings where both women and men are represented at the same seniority level, it is the men who dominate. Not because women have nothing on their minds, simply because men with their deeper tone trump their sentences through, talk for longer than women, interrupt more than women do, and generally sweep women off the field.

Imagine if men only related to what came out of the mouths of their female colleagues and not to the rest of their bodies. And yes, there must be room for flirtation in life, but not in a situation where it is undesirable and one wants to be taken seriously in his professionalism and not be made an object in an atmosphere where business and desire are intertwined.

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Kvinder betaler prisen, når vi nægter at forholde os til indvandringens udfordringer

Voldshandlinger er uacceptable, også når de begås af folk, vi synes, det er synd for

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Women pay a high price when we refuse to deal with the challenges of immigration

Acts of violence are unacceptable, even when committed by people we feel sorry for

“Can’t you take a compliment, you fucking whore !?” The words came from a young man in the group, I had just passed on Blågårdsplads. I was in my mid 20s and lived in Nørrebro at the time.

I was in the process of crossing Blågårds Plads, where a bunch of young men shouted “Hey beautiful! What is your phone number?” I ignored them and in response I got the comment above. The place was theirs, not mine, I had to understand.

Another time I was sitting across from a young man on the S-train as he took his little friend between his legs forward and started masturbating in front of me while holding my gaze. I protested loudly to call myself to the attention of other passengers and asked him to pack up. In both cases, the young men were Middle Eastern in appearance. Again, there was a mark that I was vulnerable in a public space I had never before questioned by moving around alone.

Most Danish women have experienced something similar, and what I share here can in the big picture be considered relatively harmless episodes, right? Maybe enough, but maybe they are an expression of a deeper societal problem, not only in Denmark but throughout Europe.

A few days ago, Ayaan Hirsi Ali’s book ” Prey – Immigration, Islam, and the Erosion of Women’s Rights” was published . The book is hair-raising but necessary reading if one is interested in facing the consequences of immigration and doing something about them.

Hirsi Ali is originally from Somalia and fled an arranged marriage before ending up in the Netherlands, where she became a politician. She had to flee to the United States because the Dutch state announced that they could no longer protect her. What should she be protected against? Against rabid male Muslims who repeatedly tried to murder her because they did not like that she shared her own and other women’s experiences of religious oppression of women and allowed herself to speak out loud about the oppression of women in Islam.

In the book ” Prey “, Ayaan Hirsi Ali asks the question: Why are there more places in Europe where women are completely absent in public space?

To answer the question, Hirsi Ali looks at statistics on violence and rape in several European countries, including Denmark. The figures speak for themselves: there is an over-representation of violence and sexual assault on women committed by Middle Eastern and African men.

Now some refuse to read on. This is problematic when many people choose to close their eyes to reality, and this is one of the reasons why development is allowed to continue. When you deal with taboos and problems, you can change them, you can not do that with your head in the bush.

It has amazed me for several years that it is a total breach of good tact and tone as much as pointing out that there is a problem with the behavior of young non-Western men in public space. Many roll their eyes, refusing to have that conversation.

The discourse is like this: Europe is big and rich, we have enough space, we are rich enough and have enough heart space to help. Furthermore, it is our fault that they are here, we have started and supported wars.

Yes, yes, yes and yes and joh, I say.

For many years it was thought that if you gave the newcomers a generation or two, they would adapt to the culture and norms of which they became a part of Europe. However, we knew the statistics early on, we knew very well that women in these families were exposed to physical, psychological and sexual violence to a greater extent than ethnic Danish women. But we obviously had no problem with that. After all, they were not us, did not look like us, did not live like us, had other habits.

Several generations have now passed, and it has been shown that there is still an over-representation of violence committed by men with non-Western backgrounds. Moreover, we see the same trend among the migrants coming to Europe in these years. The difference is that the rings from previous generations have spread into society, so that it is now not “only” in the immediate family sphere and in the ghettos that the assaults are committed, now it also affects Jeanette and Pia.

The non-western inhabitants do not have to be part of French, Belgian or Danish society but can live a whole life in their own small Middle Eastern enclave in Paris, Brussels or Copenhagen, and it has been shown that a large part of those who have come to Europe, do not feel a responsibility to lay down the medieval attitude they have to the female sex. This is reflected in their behavior, verbally and physically inside and outside the home.

No, I do not incite to hatred and alienation, the numbers speak for themselves. I do not want right-wing populists to be allowed to define the agenda with their hate speech. It should be okay to point out problems when they are there – even without being proclaimed to go on a hateful errand.

In Europe, those who arrive by chance are welcomed – in boats or otherwise. One can hardly do otherwise. Some get asylum, others do not. Many stay even though they have been denied residence. The largest group, young men, is also the group with the most problems and committing the most violence and sexual assault.

One may ask oneself the question of what integration in Europe would have looked like if one had had an asylum policy that encouraged those who really need protection, namely women and children, to come instead of letting young people, strong men be the largest group of asylum seekers? No matter what the young men flee from, the fact is always that in war-torn countries, it is women and children who are the weakest.

From a gender perspective, it is problematic that many who come or have grown up in Europe in an environment with non-Western norms do not see violence against women as a problem. It’s not something I come up with, it can be read in various statistics from the countries that are brave enough to put them on public display.

I have a hard time understanding that many, in an insistent hold on a romanticized notion of immigrants and asylum seekers, are willing to close their eyes and sacrifice the rights of women, both ethnic minority women and ethnic Danish women.

How can something be so awkward and uncomfortable to deal with that we would rather stick to a lie with huge consequences for those we should protect, namely the women?

Perhaps it is difficult for man to understand that you may well be a poor human being, while at the same time committing violence, oppression, and sexual assault.

It amazes me that it is really bad practice to question whether it is not ok for Europe to have an attitude towards who they would like to move into the community. One is quickly shamed as a racist, and there are undertones of some kind of 1930s racist unity philosophy. If it’s never ok to have an open debate about what it is we want from people who come to our latitudes and how we succeed in the project, then it will be the women who pay the price in the form of cutting off from moving freely in public.

I am in no way against immigration. I myself am a foreigner in the country I have chosen to settle in. But there is a systemic slide when the system closes its eyes and women’s rights are diluted and the system for fear of being proclaimed a naughty enemy , closes its eyes to and accepts a development we should never accept in a Western democracy.

Slowly, women disappear from certain public spaces, and when they move out, it is with a new vigilant consciousness – do we women, and do you men, really want to accept it?

Do you think I crossed Blågårds Plads again, and do you think I later took the S-train alone? Of course I did. But the experience sat in me, and gave me a vigilance I had not previously had as a young woman in Copenhagen.

Physical and psychological violence and sexual assault are found in all societies, western as well as non-western and it is committed by both blue-eyed and brown-eyed. Violence against women is a fundamental violation of human rights and should never be accepted – not even when committed by a group we think is a shame.

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